Fraser Scott McNeilly

Fraser Scott McNeilly, 70, passed suddenly on January 7, 2022 in Milford, MA. Fraser is survived by the love of his life, his wife of nearly 40 years, Dianne “Muffin” Butler McNeilly; his three children and their spouses, Scott and Tala McNeilly, Sean McNeilly and Catherine Litke, and Shannon and CJ Martin; and his five grandchildren, Liam and Myra McNeilly, Aila McNeilly, and Hallie and Macie Martin.

Fraser was born in Boston, MA to the late Ralph and Harriet (Emerson) McNeilly and raised in Needham, MA. Fraser attended Worcester Polytechnic Institute and Boston University, graduating from BU and pursuing a career in Information Technology. He was a loving husband, father, grandfather, and friend.

He was devoted to maintaining an immaculate lawn and was stellar with building computers, as well as enthusiastically providing IT support for anyone who asked. His family will always remember his fashion “sense,” often sporting flannels, jeans, and tall socks. Fraser was level-headed, honest, and knowledgeable, and his children always turned to him for advice and support. He loved to spoil and spend time with all of the family pets, enjoying snuggles and pats with the dogs and cats. Fraser was an amateur bartender at home, and his daughter and daughters-in-law will remember him as the proud chocolate martini mixologist, as he was always willing and excited to make them during family events.

He was the best Papa to his grandchildren, cherishing them and their time together. His grandchildren reflect on time together playing catch, leading the Cookie Baking Team, playing Connect 4, and providing endless giggles pretending to be “scary things.” He was known to the family as the Great Finder and the Baby Whisperer, snuggling and soothing the babies and serving as the family furnace, keeping his grandchildren warm and safe. Fraser spoiled his family at breakfast time with waffles, bacon, and bagels, making cinnamon buns for special occasions. He was an excellent babysitter, providing cuddles, bringing his grandchildren on adventures to the zoo and swings. His grandchildren wonder, “Papa did so many things and was so many things. How do we do so many things without him?”

Above all else, Fraser valued and unconditionally loved his family in such a way that cannot be emphasized enough. He was caring, warm, supportive, and generous, and his loved ones never questioned his love for them.

His family finds comfort and happiness in knowing that Fraser is in Heaven looking down on his family, finally riding his golden John Deere tractor as he mows his perfect lawn.

An outdoor Celebration of Life will be held in the spring or summer. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to the National Multiple Sclerosis Society. https://www.nationalmssociety.org/donate

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